Quite a few red flags
Some of this is genuinely wearing things down
Several of your habits are doing steady damage, not only during arguments. Worth saying plainly: this is not about your character and not about the kind of person you are — these are learned reflexes, mostly from earlier relationships or from home, and what was learned can be unlearned.
Where you are strong
- You took this yourself, which means you are willing to look
- Seeing the problem is the hard part, and you are past it
- These habits are extremely common, not something strange
- They do change, usually faster than people expect
Worth watching
- The same loop repeating across different relationships
- A pull toward explaining your behaviour instead of looking at its effect
- The other person may be more worn out than you realise
Putting it to use
Do not try to fix all of it. Pick the two with the most destructive force — usually saying wounding things in anger, and threatening to leave — and work on those. Saying it out loud helps more than you would think: "I know I say harsh things when I'm angry, I'm working on it, tell me to stop when I start." That turns something the other person endures into something you handle together.
Under pressure
This is the level at which outside pressure most easily gets poured into the relationship. If you recognise yourself bringing work home and detonating there, the work to be done is somewhere other than the relationship.
And you?
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This is a mirror, not a diagnosis of you or of your relationship. A high score does not mean you are a bad person — it means some of your habits are doing damage, and habits can change. One thing said plainly: if there is violence, threats, financial control or being cut off from the people close to you, that is not a matter of habits and no quiz is the right tool for it — please talk to someone you trust or a support organisation.