Regulating emotion
You keep your head when others lose theirs
Your strongest strand is not letting feeling decide on your behalf. You can sit with discomfort without having to end it, and in chaos you are usually the one still thinking. This is the strand with the most practical value of the four, because it is what other people feel immediately when something goes wrong.
Where you are strong
- Composed in situations that panic other people
- You pick your moment instead of speaking while heated
- You recover quickly from a bad day
- People feel steadier with you in the room
Worth watching
- Composure is easily read as not caring
- You may be suppressing rather than processing, and suppression accumulates
- Easy to lose patience with people who react strongly
Putting it to use
The strand that most often needs balancing is noticing. People who are good at staying calm sometimes stay calm by not looking at what they feel — effective now, expensive later. Practise naming the feeling even when you have no intention of acting on it.
Under pressure
The warning sign for you is not temper but unusual flatness. If you notice you are not feeling much of anything, that is suppression rather than calm.
And you?
Take the test to see your own result.
Take the test to find your ownThe other results
This is self-report, so it measures what you think about yourself rather than your actual behaviour. That is a real limitation and not a small one: the person weakest at a skill is often the person least able to see it. If you can, ask someone close to you how they would answer for you — the gap between the two is usually the most valuable part.