Noticing emotion
You know where you are
Your strongest strand is knowing exactly what you feel and why. It is the foundation of the other three — someone who cannot name a feeling has little chance of regulating it. You catch your mood turning early, and you can usually tell a reaction to what is in front of you from the aftershock of something else.
Where you are strong
- You name the feeling rather than registering vague discomfort
- You notice early when you are starting to slide
- You know which situations are your weak spots
- You rarely take a feeling out on someone unconnected to it
Worth watching
- Understanding a feeling does not automatically mean regulating it
- Easy to stop at analysing the feeling instead of doing something with it
- You may expect others to understand themselves as well as you do
Putting it to use
The strand worth investing in next is regulating. You already have the best raw material for it — knowing where you are — so the next step is putting a gap between noticing and acting. Try a fixed question when a feeling rises: what do I want this to look like ten minutes from now?
Under pressure
Under strain, people strong here tend to observe their own feelings closely and still be led by them. Noticing is not handling — they are two different things.
And you?
Take the test to see your own result.
Take the test to find your ownThe other results
This is self-report, so it measures what you think about yourself rather than your actual behaviour. That is a real limitation and not a small one: the person weakest at a skill is often the person least able to see it. If you can, ask someone close to you how they would answer for you — the gap between the two is usually the most valuable part.