Steadiness
Getting through a hard stretch without making it harder on yourself.
Steadiness
When it all falls apart: a map for the first thirty days after losing a job, a relationship or someone you love
This piece is not about getting over it. It is about what to do in the first month, when you have not got over anything yet. Vietnamese tradition already has a rhythm for that stretch, and modern psychology suggests it is wiser than it looks.
07/09/2026 · 4 min read
Steadiness
Self-compassion is not an excuse: why being kind to yourself after failing makes people try harder
Many people fear that being kind to themselves will make them lazy. A Berkeley experiment measured the opposite: after failing a hard test, students prompted to be self-compassionate studied noticeably longer. This piece explains why.
07/09/2026 · 3 min read
Steadiness
Everyone seems to be moving faster than you: where FOMO came from, why you are comparing your backstage with their stage, and how to step out
The word FOMO was coined in 2004 in a Harvard student paper. Over a decade later, a University of Pennsylvania experiment found that limiting social media to thirty minutes a day for three weeks made people noticeably less lonely and less low. This piece is about getting out of that comparison.
07/09/2026 · 3 min read